September 2009
3 posts
it's ok to listen and not have an answer
Men and women are wired differently, this is a genetic fact. Many men, when faced with a problem, seek out the fastest way to fix it. When it comes to a broken pipe, what to make for dinner or a flat tire, that’s fantastic. But when we want to vent about how our coworkers are a bunch of whiny, self absorbed twats that avoid work as much as possible, we aren’t looking for a solution.
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When women are alone, leave them alone.
Ir is ok for a woman to do things alone. We are capable of being alone and not lonely. We don’t need to be reminded that we can do things on our own. We don’t need to be told to smile. We don’t need a man to talk to us to make us feel good about ourselves.
We can walk down the street alone, it would be nice if we didn’t get yelled after. When we don’t respond, it...
How to apologize and really mean it:
Do not apologize for someone else’s feelings, apologize for the action that caused those feelings.
“I’m sorry you feel that way” does not equal “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings.”
Take responsibility for the way your actions make other people feel. It is ok for someone to be hurt, upset or angry. It is not ok to invalidate those feelings because they...